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It's Time For Parenting Solutions
Welcome to a new concept in parenting. Actually the concept is not new – the idea of quality time has been around for longer than we know. But, it’s been just that.
This book shares with you the Simple Directions for turning this idea into reality for you and your child.
And the best part:
When you incorporate quality time into your parenting, your children’s behavior shifts dramatically:
- Cooperation Soars
- Complaining Decreases
- Tantrums decrease in duration and intensity
- And most importantly, a lasting connection is created with your child
Welcome to Quality Time With Your Kids – The Simple Directions. And welcome to the reality of Quality Time. Simply. Effectively. Joyously.
Does This Sound Like You?
You know there has to be a better way. While your intentions with your child are to stay calm, and firmly and consistently establish rules that work, the truth is…
Sometimes you lose it.
Maybe this is happening more often than you like. You hear the tone of your voice, and you can’t believe the words that are coming out of your mouth.
When you lose your temper, you see the fear in your child’s eyes and the voice starts in your head: “You’re not a good enough parent… this child deserves better.”
Everyone else has advice – try timeouts – behavior charts – consequences: take their favorite toy away – don’t let them watch TV for a week.
But none of it seems to be working at improving your child’s behavior. At least not consistently.
So you keep losing your cool, and in your heart, you know the long-term relationship with your child is being damaged.
You are not alone.
We’ve worked with hundreds of parents just like you. And this process has changed everything for them.
And now we’ve written this book for you.
The Simple Directions are about creating paradigm shift. “What’s a paradigm?” you may ask. A paradigm is “the way things are.” We want to shift this for you to “the way things can be.”
This book is based on THREE simple shifts that will create a change in you and a change in your child. Don’t worry, these shifts are completely outlined and the process is easy to implement.
This is not a book that you read, this is a book that you do. And as you begin to incorporate this new way of thinking into your life, your child’s behavior, and more importantly, your relationship with your child will improve dramatically.
Quality Time is based on our belief that every relationship that we have should be one of mutual respect. We know that trying to control your child only results in struggle, conflict and damaged relationships.
Who wants to be controlled? We don’t, and we’re guessing that you don’t either… and guess what? Neither does your child!
By firmly setting limits in cooperation with your child (we’ll show you exactly how to do this) a whole new world of relationship opens up between you.
We know that to be the parent you want to be, you have to be the best you that you can be. It’s the old adage that if the plane is going down you need to put on your oxygen mask first!
And finally, it is our philosophy that what your child wants and needs is your attention, love, and acknowledgement and that it is possible to meet these needs without spoiling, coddling or entitling your child.
Your child can thrive, and so can you.
As parents, we want to point the finger so quickly to our child as being the problem, especially when our kids are backtalking. We want to “fix” their behavior, and stop the backtalking. We certainly want to “fix” their emotional outbursts.
When our children are acting out, or misbehaving in some way, it’s so easy to get wrapped up in the emotional stress of the moment that there’s one very important step that most parents overlook:
The stress that you’re experiencing is your stress. And, this stress is what’s keeping you from connecting with your child and enjoying the quality time that is truly possible, even during those emotionally charged moments.
It’s not really about your child and his upset. Emotional conne tion, bonding and the development of quality time begins with you, the parent.
Yet, what do you do when you have so much emotional stress in the moment with your child that you can’t even begin to think about bonding or developing quality time? Do you withdraw or react? Do you blame? Do you feel like you don’t like your child?
Backtalk can create all of these reactions within you. Our approach is to first take a look at you and what is keeping you from connecting with your child, instead of the other way around.
Once you begin to change your intention and parenting strategy, then your child can follow suit.
You are setting the tone as the parent. Mutual respect begins with you!
Let’s face it. Feelings are just a big mess for many of us.
They can be uncomfortable and revealing, even downright embarrassing, especially for boys being raised in most Western cultures.
And, if children are not given an outlet to express their feelings in a safe way, then feelings tend to build up and create emotional stress in the body and mind.
When a parent can offer a child empathy, a space for his feelings to be heard without any judgment, then the child feels safe and wants to connect now with the parent.
Parents think that kids should cooperate automatically.
Yet, if kids aren’t given an outlet to connect with you first, then they aren’t as inclined to cooperate with you.
Connection first, then cooperation. Always in that order!
Human beings retain many behaviors that we experience in childhood in the neural patterning of our brains.
The memories of these behaviors stick with us and can have the tendency to be come more pronounced as we become parents. Since most habitual behaviors create neural patterning in the human brain, the strategies from the dominant paradigm, like yelling, are often unconscious and not always the conscious choice of the parent.
The dominant paradigm of being, behaving and parenting is often what parents will resort to during times of emotional stress be cause it’s what they know.
When a parent begins to practice the Simple Directions along with the meditation that’s in our member area HERE, she is actually re-patterning her brain towards more peaceful parenting strategies and away from older, dominant strategies like yelling.
And, as a parent shifts her parenting strategies, then guess what happens with her child?
The child shifts too because your child is modeling you in every moment. So no more yelling for a parent means a decrease in yelling for the child.
And, don’t you just love a peaceful home?
About The Authors
Jolette Jai, founder of The Quantum Mindshift Process and Peace of Mind Parenting (PeaceofMindParenting.com)
Throughout Jolette’s programs, parents develop deep listening, empathy, and loving speech so that they can guide their children to learn unconditional ways to express their feelings and needs and to resolve their problems.
Her evolutionary online programs and free teleseminars draw people from all over the world, throughout North America, Canada, Western Europe, New Zealand and Australia and are now being recognized by schools and therapists in Southern California as a valuable resource for parents.
After building a successful business helping hundreds of parents around the world over the past three years while raising a toddler on her own, Jolette truly believes that you can shift any pattern in your life at any time and that you have an incredible power within your mind that naturally wants to move towards love, connection, abundance and support.
Kiva Leatherman is a radio host, speaker and innovator in the new paradigm of women, motherhood and business. She has a proven ability to create leveraged brands, products and services that generate “whole”istic wealth for women: supporting their independence, flexibility and freedom.
Kiva honed her sales and marketing skills and financial expertise over the course of a 12-year career in the investment management industry, where she gave the “big boys” a run for their money.
Her presentations on women and investing laid the groundwork for what eventually became Wise Workshops and her personal mission to ensure that women are self-reliant with their resources of time, money, intellectual capacity and worth. She teaches women to create a framework for success which gives them the power and freedom to live well and to stop living vicariously through others.
Today, Kiva inspires tens of thousands of women each week through her website, blog and radio show, “A Woman’s Worth.” Kiva inspires women to find fulfillment and gratification, while happily embracing an authentic, honest and real approach to the challenges that all of us face.
Check Out What Others Are Saying
"Wouldn't it be amazing if every parent and teacher understood this?"
“Jolette has a truly comprehensive program that starts at the very beginning to get you to a joyful, connected relationship with your children. But it also will help you with all of your most important relationships. Very helpful.”
“It is amazing how this works with my almost 4-year-old son. He responds right away to Jolette’s tools and he goes from being impatient, crying or bouncing off the walls to stopping, calming down and using his words so we can reach an agreement on what he needs/wants. I wish I had learned this years ago.”
"This is how I have been trying to raise my daughter!"
“I feel inspired. I feel like there’s hope. That I can be the parent I always wanted to be.”
I have read SO MANY parenting books, participated in workshops, spent countless hours scouring the internet and been through two years of therapy and have not come across anything as informative, intelligent, honest, encouraging and wonderful as Jolette’s parenting program!
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Quality Time With Your Kids - The Simple Directions
- Digital Edition of Quality Time With Your Kids - The Simple Directions - $20
- "Let Go of the Way You Were Parented" Training Class - $45
- "Learning the Language of Connection" Training Class - $45
- Quantum Mindshift Meditation - $45
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I have done a fair amount of research In parenting. I have had a bit of a desperate search of finding a program or parenting process that I felt good about. That felt genuine and authentic...
...So as I began The Simple Directions and have listened to two of your parenting classes and, in a word - ingenious!! This program is by far the most interesting, thought provoking, and helpful.
Jai Franklin Greenlee
Safe, easy, simple, profound.
This 20-minute meditation (The Quantum Mindshift Process) is changing my life. Something’s happening to me during those meditations that’s uncovering a lot of old stuff. I’ve read a million books and haven’t gotten anywhere. But there’s something that’s happening in The Quantum Mindshift process that’s really clearing and healing.